💣 So you want the big life. ₹80Lacs CTC. Balcony sunsets in Mumbai. Business class seat. But do you know the invoice of success? Let me show you.. Survival guide for the ‘arrived’ Indian He’s 39. 👔 ex-McKinsey Partner, IIM A 📈 Now GP of $1.8B VC Growth fund 🏙️ Owns a Worli duplex with a plunge pool. 🥃 Glenfiddich 50-year in the cabinet (still sealed) 🚫Unseen Cost - Panic attack on the tarmac at T3 - Dinner without family 4 nights a week - Wakes up with anxiety every morning - Dog forgot his scent, wife forgot their inside jokes -₹18Lacs /year on therapy, nootropics, and bio-hacks, to feel something again. She’s 37. 👩💻 ex-Google PM turned fintech founder 🏆 Forbes 30/30 alum 📊 Net worth: ₹22 Crore (on paper). 🚫 Unseen Cost - Hair falling from chronic cortisol - SSRIs (antidepressant) since 2021 - 200 mg modafinil + 30 mg escitalopram/week - No real break in 3.5 years - ₹9.8Lacs on freezing eggs, avoid "productivity risk" - Terrified of turning 40 This is post-success India. Where checklist is complete and soul-is-half-missing. ✅ Big brand job ✅ ₹70 Lacs + cash in-hand ✅ Fancy flat ✅ Fancier car ✅ LinkedIn claps ✅ Family pride ✅ "Financial freedom" And yet: ❌ Numbness ❌ Chronic fatigue ❌ No one to be real with ❌ Zero time to breathe ❌ 2AM existential dread We learned how to chase. But no one taught us how-to-hold-success without losing ourselves. We built: 💼 Careers, not identities 💰 Wealth, not wonder 📢 Influence, not intimacy 🥇 Status, not safety So.. Chasing the big life? Here’s what I tell every CXO, founder, and pro I coach 🧠 Audit "why" behind your ambition: If it’s fueled by revenge, validation, or comparison, it will betray you. 🛑 Set your "soul stop-loss.": Decide how much of your peace, relationships, or health you’re NOT willing to trade. Learn from my mistakes. 🏃♂️ Build identity; Survives CTC or LinkedIn strip: One day your role will go and so will your self-worth tied to it. I’ve lived this. Seen it up close, too. Sometimes, a single conversation can re-route years. DM if it feels like time.
Nilanjana Senguptawhat?! No, i am happy where I am. Content shelf-life on a linkedin is less than 24 hours. If someone gets a perspective from the post and acts on it...that's the best.
Puneet SuriTotally agree, even I know a good bunch of folks who are doing great health-wise as well as in career. It's the mindset problem that we play in extremes, either this or that, either career or health etc.
Arun Valechanothing to do with health - Its genetics. If you are referring to me, i am not including myself in that group! But some of the healthiest people I know in their 40s and 50s have done extremely well in their career (and wealth generation) in their 20s and 30s and onwards. There is no doubt about that. Btw, seems you are not doing too well! I wish you good luck.
I could not understand the meaning is of "extreme healthy". In lighter note, i asked. I got your point. I am thankful for your wishes which is utmost needed. Thanks for generosity. Best Regards, Arun Valecha.
Puneet SuriAbsolutely Sir, Wealth is important for Good Health. But Health is more important for utilizing wealth. I still think there is no such thing as extreme healthy. There will be some deficiency present in healthiest person, may be haemoglobin or any pathology range.
Bhaisaab he just want to say that Jobs are demanding and tough so take care of health and be happy.Otherwise there are people who are safe after falling from 10th floor
Nadhiya MaliYou should attack the content of the argument not writer's identity...Also, saying someone can’t have an opinion because of their biology is a strange argument.
Vaibhav J.Not just 'an opinion', the ones that gotta do with having one. Feel free to have an opinion about whether we should make Cricket our national sport instead or anything that doesn't have to do with you know what. Note the 'regarding'.It is there to explicitly point out where exactly to use the argument,mentioned in ( ...). And if you think of it, it is kinda a waste of time to have an opinion on something that would never apply to you. The rest,in fact the majority is open to anyone's criticism Ig. Honestly if we can't interpret the words, no point having an opinion in the first place expecting others to interpret us. Here it was not so difficult to understand actually and 'someone can't have *an opinion* " is definitely not the conclusion one would make if interpreted the words properly. Okay let me translate it for you: No.Ut.No.Op. (regarding xyz)..don't care about the rest only mean don't bother to have an opinion abt xyz( coz mostly it has nothing to do with you or anyone with your biology so it would be at max a speculation),apart from that feel free to have an opinion about anything else (that is leaving the ones that don't apply to you or won't ever) P.S. (.) may be mansplained explanations
Swapnil S. Freedom of speech doesn't guarantee the absence of backlash ;) That's why we truncate our vocabulary shorter than everything that falls under 'whatever you can say legally'. For eg,you wouldn't call up your boss and start abusing coz you know there are certain reasons not to even if freedom of speech certainly allows you to. You would be happy to compromise on your right on such freedom of speech when you cannot pay the cost at which it comes. Conveniently when the cost is not something you gotta pay,suddenly the right comes up,haha. Here the cost of such an unnecessary opinion that has nothing to do with you is speculation that can grow into public insight and which thereafter start affecting policy making or even mental health of those to whom it actually apply to. The legal subset is never the social subset for us. Same reason why you won't go out and start videographing random people(coz in between you may end up breaking other laws unknowingly and then,ahem,angry mob isn't something you would like to face) even if legally pubic places can be videographed.
Vaibhav J.hein? The motto is invalidating arguments out of the brain about things which you wouldn't ever face yourself, doesn't invalidate your brain . It's perfectly welcome to debate on things that actually apply to you. (The basis of not applying includes biology yes,could be anything. For eg,I wouldn't tell a kannadiga what to do with the kannada- hindi debate online because I am not and wouldn't be a kannadiga .It just doesn't apply to me.I can only talk abt what I face or not face etc. Similarly,you can decide whether you wanna be into women with such a stance or can adjust with someone like that.That is about your part,sure.But what you can't say is what they should do on their part,including whether or not it's red flag for them to have such decision in late 30's.It's not that you can't say,you can but ofc it'spointless.Like,I can say it shouldn't be raining today like it cares abt my opinion lmao) It's just flabbergusting to see one needs to go through so much explanation only to not misinterpret one sentence: "No.ut.no.op (regarding a particular xyz)..not about the rest " And some things might seem to be missing logic coz logic comes upon some social axioms,which you might not know/agree with.
Swapnil S. Tbh you were offended by the main comment lmao,in fact a lot of others. The whole thread is about being offended about not commenting on women's matter that would never apply to you. It's not even offense, it's the audacity to put some 'shouldn'ts on men that we usually have been putting on women for ages lmao. It's that kinda being offended. More than everything it hurt the male ego lmao just for being asked to stick to literally what you should stick to. More than that, you have put your unnecessary opinion on some man too,how some man spending his own hard earned money for his therapy is a red flag to you in the same league of waking up with anxiety,which are rather sad affairs. Very easy candidates for being called out. And the 'long paragraphs' are only a reflection of how many times one gotta explain something to you and in how basic language the interpretation of one single sentence that you could have done yourself,leaving us all the headache. You don't wanna change under the curtain of 'freedom of expression' so it takes long paragraphs to explain to you how your freedom of expression hampers the same freedom of expression of others: reproductive rights,a more important one
Agnivo B. ?! Ah, got it. So only burglars can talk about theft laws? Only cancer patients get to weigh in on healthcare policy? Interesting world you live in, where empathy, logic, and observation are all disqualified… unless you’ve got the lived experience badge. Also, if the argument rests on social axioms I might not know or agree with, then we’re not really debating logic.. we’re defending dogma...
Swapnil S. You're right. We have the right to be offended. Not knowing offensive from inoffensive is not illegal but definitely is warning sign of toxic masculinity which has no place in today's world with the only freedom of expression in one's own home suppressing dependents.
Swapnil S. And the law doesn't dictate your actions either,i mean it does but before that the potential consequences of your action decide whether you wanna go ahead with it,even if within law. You don't wanna go ahead with verbally abusing your boss perfectly within freedom of speech only because the consequence is uncomfortable for you. Here an opinion on women's reproductive rights won't have much consequences coz neither your bros or women in your fam would judge you for that. So your expression of your legally available freedom.of speech is a convenient step for you, bootlicking the men in power making sure not to offend them but not so much with the women knowing they would at max call you out for it. Just wanted to make people understand that crying about law only when convenient but yourself totally compromising on widening the law depending on whether someone can afford the consequences of such actions esp. that are perfectly within the law but uncomfortable for you ,is just bootlicking hypocrisy. Preach what you practice. Thank you.
Vaibhav J.'logic' itself is only convergence or deviation of a flow of arguments towards or away a set of axioms lol. I am pretty sure ya all totally sell yourself away all the time when it comes to logic realising there are some more important underlying phenomena that you just gotta accept as axioms. For eg,dealing with your clients etc,even if they are logically wrong you follow the learnt-by-experience social axiom of not offending the clients even though there are logical grounds of doing that. It's just you can't afford the consequences of choosing the logic over such axioms. But when you can,when the consequences aren't on you,you talk about logic. Have always seen people talk about how r*pe/abuse victims should behave,get abused and right away file a complaint when they talk abt how the complaints come so late. They follow whatever logic they can come up with perfectly knowing a social axiom of not piling on the victims do exist. But there is no consequences for their actions thistime.Sothey play the you-see-I-am-just-following-logic part. Intellectuals have learnt to shut up on their 'logical' conclusions here and there about god,after seeing consequences of hurting sentiments-violating the axiom.
Vaibhav J.Actually it's a generational phenomena when educated men like you transitioned into learning how there are more important things than logic,like emotions,people's well being. And when it comes to women,they have chosen to follow the logic over others except when they change completely. A and B,once upon a time,were like this,like ya all. But then A became a girl-dad and B didn't. And now they don't talk much. Since B couldn't evolve into the person A would like to be his daughter around. That's pretty much it. Sure, assuming the bestest of men, ya all perfectly know when to be empathetic etc over obsessing over logic when it comes to women in your life because ofc you are their well wishers. But then again,ofc who cares abt other women right. It is not your responsibility. So you put your heart at home and go out playing the logic card. Not new. For centuries we have seen educated men knowing conveniently switch avatars,haha.
Sushree Chinmayee Nayak 1. Mentioning 'toxic masculinity' or any 'shouldn't be's won't make a difference to them. 2. The right to freedom of speech etc. is only a convenient tool for them when it is convenient for them.The lack of consequences of action makes the convenience possible. Only working on such consequences is a better option,for which you will need more support and consensus.But people usually shy away from these heated opinionated spaces and put you on your own, which gives them the escape from any consequences(even a backlash is a decent consequence,doesn't have to be some sorta punishment)
Swapnil S. Fundamental right of freedom of speech or expression co-exists with laws that can be follow-ups of one being offended. Hurting religious sentiments, defaming someone, hurting modesty of women - all these are legal grounds to pursue once someone is offended by respective reasons. So just mansplaining with the 'oh what do you know,you mere woman' mindset(which is why it's mansplaining,with the idea that you always know better) hiding under naive statements like 'oh your right to be offended' is nowhere compared to the fundamental rights.Ofc it's not.But there are other legal grounds to do something about it and hence your assumptions are just plain naive ;) But I get it that throwing some 'let me show you how I know better' kinda emasculation attitude is an important 'let me at least have a win and feel good' escape certainly. No worries, keep feeling good about it.
Can you please remove the content on "freezing eggs/productivity" part. it's straight forward offensive. I wonder how do you sleep at night with such mediocre content at night. Moreover, us actually boosting it bu even interacting with such unrealistic, attention seeking content on personal lives of others.
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Sushree Chinmayee NayakThe line was commentary on modern pressures not mockery or moral posturing. I get that topic can be disturbing to some. But engaging with uncomfortable realities doesn’t make it offensive or attention-seeking by default, reducing it to that is just lazy. We can disagree on tone, but disagreement isn’t license to question intent or attack character. Strong opinions are welcome. So is basic respect.
Vaibhav J.How do you decide 'it doesn't become offensive'. How would you know even if it was? It's like telling a jew, whether or not talking about hitler is offensive without even being one. Like bruh you cannot be in their shoe. It's hard to see grown men cannot distinguish between arguments. Whether or not an uncomfortable statement about India being a rape capital is offensive you can decide for yourself,but when it comes to whether saying today's event is enough to tag Kolkata a rape capital too is offensive or not, is not something someone outside of kolkata or not born there can decide coz they wouldn't be offended even if it is. But I am sure using n number of analogy and several dumbed down explanations wouldn't get to your head coz now ya all are just reading from hurt male ego rather than a rational mind where you just cannot digest being told what to do about women's matter. Right,who on earth can stop you from expressing such opinion? I am sure our freedom of speech exists only to make such abuse of right possible. Please continue.Not surprising when the r*pists can't stop r*ping when educated men cannot digest some pride and stop the urge of having opinion on women's reproductive rights
Agnivo B. So let me get this straight: Disagreeing = hurt ego. Explaining = mansplaining. And not being from Kolkata = opinion invalid. Bro, that’s not discourse that’s dodgeball. Yeah lived experience matters, no one's denying that. But that don’t mean only people who went through something are allowed to speak on it. By that logic, doctors shouldn’t treat stuff they never had. Journalists shouldn’t report outside their city... What’s getting tiring isn’t disagreement it’s constant switch from argument to insult the moment pushback shows up... Also, I really hope this wasn’t written by ChatGPT... It’s trying too hard...
Sushree Chinmayee NayakPlease remove this. How do you sleep at night? Too tired to educate. All in one thread, impressive range.. Appreciate the passion but personal digs aren’t a substitute for argument. You’re offended.. Fair. Say that. But dressing it up as a moral collapse and pretending it's beneath your energy.. That’s not critique. That’s a theater with a superiority complex...
Vaibhav J.I am sure you don't have a journalistic license on a Li post lmao.And your emojicons in post are gpt giveaways lol. Nah,man.Mybad.Go ahead.Actions have consequences, when your unsolicited opinions will have some you will learn anyway.Will be too late,but who cares.Cheers!
Vaibhav J.Other Side Age 37: Average IT profession Unseen Cost: 1. working 45 hours a week and at time 60 hours 2. Doing useless thing most of the time 3.Home EMI for worthless apartment. 4. Always at threat of firing. Low CTC also does not gaurnetee happiness !
Not to throw shade at the author here but the way seeking help and taking medications for mental health is being called out as “something drastically bad” is my problem with this entire post. SSRIs are the safest medications for anyone struggling with anxiety and doesn’t even qualify as anti- depressants really. Also there’s nothing WRONG with being depressed, just saying. It can happen to an infant, a housewife, people with the most sorted work life balance and impoverished sections of the society. Let’s not further the stigma around seeking help and meds when it’s life saving.
I hear you, but I think there's a misunderstanding here...Anxiety in my post is an output metric, a warning light..not a moral judgment on meds or therapy. The point I’m flagging is the input driver: chasing big $$ package on autopilot, or copying someone else’s success template without checking the long‑term consequences By the time one realized there is burn‑out, body breakdown, mind in overdrive..it can be too late, and still dopamine hit of external validation keeps them stuck on the treadmill... Post isn’t pathologizing anxiety; it’s calling out the hidden cost of unbalanced ambition. Hope that frames my intent better. 🙏
Purnangshu PaulIt's easier have this perspective from outside but when you are inside the wheel, there are so many forces pushing, cajoling, massaging your ego to stay on the wheel..you can't think what's right for you on your own. Manytimes you need a shakeup..and reorientation..
If they make it till 65 they'll realise they missed out on small joys in life - tea and gossip with partners, time spent with kids, spending time with parents who are only getting older, pursuing what makes them happy.
LinkedIn these days feels surreal, some say 70L is the new definition of being poor, others claim 80L just gets you a balcony in Mumbai. Maybe it’s that 10L gap where all the noise lives. But if death is the ultimate truth, wouldn’t it be better to live by your own choices rather than someone else’s version of success? I’ve lived life earning 2LPA and also ₹20LPA. And honestly, 20LPA gives you just enough cushion to make a few good choices, especially when you need them most. Beyond that, it’s all in the mind. So, to the generation that may get inspired by this post, and leave everything - focus on the kaam. The rest is just gyan ki baat.... Society is so brutal, want to test ? Leave everything and see how you get treated.. including from your family.
The way you have said it, all the wealthy people in the corporate & business world are supposedly the unhappiest & most unfortunate creatures in the world. As if they deserve this punishment for working too hard in their lives, while everyone else are having the most fulfilling relationships, mental peace and great health. You seem to have a confused relationship with success & money. Whether you hustle or don't hustle, each path has its own side effects & benefits. Pick your poison.
The issue isn't them working so hard. The issue is competition to have a decent and happy life. Why is it so unavailable? Why is the cost of living so high? Those are the issues.
Vaibhav J. I actually know many successful millionaires who are already living this change. New India is different—they’re choosing balance, family, and well-being, not just chasing bigger numbers. Maybe true success is about what we hold on to, not just what we achieve.
Brutally honestVaibhav Jain. Success is glamorous but it can bring a few emotional and medical EMIs with it. The real success is fine tuning your ambitions not for validation or revenge but for peace. Suatainable success and not success alone should be the criteria
Knowing your priorities in life is the key. There's always a trade-off in every decision we make. Know what are you losing in return for an opportunity. Ask yourself are you willing to pay!
80 lacs seems less. Now we target above and beyond 1.5 cr Inr. For that lots of people compromise their peace already. Life challenging we need to give some to take some.
Dr. Seuss was indeed right :) though I came to know this while reading for my kiddo! - “So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life's A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you'll move mountains.” ― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!
What's wrong with paying for therapy? Is it supposed to be free. Doesn't seem like a red flag as it is portrayed here.The spent amount might be high,that's all. Another thing, one family dinner a week could be as much of a quality time as of those having it daily but with physically-present-yet-emotionally-distant mindset coz of lack of EQ/generationally passed on etc. which could have been improved by therapy etc. It's a communist mindset that 'big indian dream' is a sham. And calling these lives soul-less is an insult to those who are trying their very best to survive through soul-torchering labor everyday living day by day. It's not surprising chatgpt content couldn't sugarcoat the commie lens of viewing things lmao. Or, maybe it's an intentional rage-bait ;)
This journey of a high-adrenaline life is quite interesting, isn't it? Yes, health is a cost, but some people enjoy adventure. I guess these moments of chasing work make them feel alive. At the end, one thing that matters is whether you really enjoyed the journey or not, because health will be gone.
Don't you think, these are the extremes?? And a very skewed approach of analysis,Vaibhav J. I highly doubt this will be the case for the entire 0.1% population of HNI's in our country.
Everything in life comes with a price tag - there are no free lunches. And life is about choices. People make choices. Choices are very personal to the individual. And no choice is wrong.
All said well and is true to the core! But this is the cost that such achievers pay for elevating the base while in a country which has such wide delta in terms of wealth and is yet to see the 100 years of post colonial freedom. Change the perspective you will appreciate the sacrifice they made !!
Balance Balance...find your own Balance. We need to find the correct Balance OURSELVES . Let's not generalise that wealth is opposite to health/ quality of life and vica versa. Each person has their own preferences and priorities at DIFFERENT PHASE of life.
I’m not on the ₹80LPA path, and honestly, I’m okay with that. Been consulting for the past couple of years — some gigs last just 2 weeks and still bring in 7 figures. It’s been simple, steady, and fulfilling. I get where this post is coming from, but not everyone hits burnout chasing success. Some of us chose a slower lane — and it’s worked out just fine.
Dear readers, Please take care of your mental health. Nothing can get it back once it deteriorates beyond a point. Do not suffer in silence and never wait for things to get worse. If you face symptoms, seek help.
ऐ इनसान, बिना अंगूर चखे कह देना कि अंगूर खट्टे हैं...ये गुनाह है अंगूर खट्टे हो भी सकते हैं बहुत सी बातो पर निर्भर है तुम्हें अंगूर भी खाने हैं और खट्टे अंगूर का सामना भी नहीं करना ऐ इंसान तुम्हे जीना भी है और जीवन की आपा धापी से बचना भी है निर्णय कर लो शांति से कब्र में लेटना है कि जीवन जीना है जीवन तो ऐसा ही है कुछ खोना और कुछ पाना कुछ पाने के लिए कुछ खोना और सब कुछ खोना कुछ पाने के लिए हिसाब रखते-रखते ख़तम हो जाओगे अपना अपना देखो दूसरो को जीने दो अपने तरीके से और तुम भी जियो अपने तरीके से जीवन को किसी भी नज़रीये से देखने कि आज़ादी सब को है और उस नज़रीये के साथ जुड़ने और ना जुड़ने की भी आजादी सबके पास है
Balcony sunset in Palolem beach , South Goa and Uttar kannada.....Mumbai mein kya hain aisa .... Speed of plain is same whether fly in Business or economy. Just don't eat too much cheese and burger with 80 lacs per year as you have to go to Cardiologist in Mumbai Breach candy Hospital.
🤷♂️ Seen enough healthy, wealthy and happy people. It is this notion that earning money comes at the cost of health is what stops us from becoming a wealthy country. Stop making it a this or that. Hum lar lenge thanks
The invisible invoice of success is rarely discussed openly. I’ve learned that if ambition costs peace and health, the final payment is always far higher than imagined.
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I knew it would be
Did not know this soon
Compliments and Regards :)
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Content shelf-life on a linkedin is less than 24 hours. If someone gets a perspective from the post and acts on it...that's the best.
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That is an art
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Thank you for the lovely words, yes it has been a consistent effort
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May each soul live its best life
Keep them coming
Also I like the likes and the resonance!
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But some of the healthiest people I know in their 40s and 50s have done extremely well in their career (and wealth generation) in their 20s and 30s and onwards. There is no doubt about that.
Btw, seems you are not doing too well! I wish you good luck.
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No Uterus, No Opinion
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Note the 'regarding'.It is there to explicitly point out where exactly to use the argument,mentioned in ( ...). And if you think of it, it is kinda a waste of time to have an opinion on something that would never apply to you. The rest,in fact the majority is open to anyone's criticism Ig.
Honestly if we can't interpret the words, no point having an opinion in the first place expecting others to interpret us. Here it was not so difficult to understand actually and 'someone can't have *an opinion* " is definitely not the conclusion one would make if interpreted the words properly.
Okay let me translate it for you:
No.Ut.No.Op. (regarding xyz)..don't care about the rest
only mean
don't bother to have an opinion abt xyz( coz mostly it has nothing to do with you or anyone with your biology so it would be at max a speculation),apart from that feel free to have an opinion about anything else (that is leaving the ones that don't apply to you or won't ever)
P.S. (.) may be
mansplained explanations
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For eg,you wouldn't call up your boss and start abusing coz you know there are certain reasons not to even if freedom of speech certainly allows you to.
You would be happy to compromise on your right on such freedom of speech when you cannot pay the cost at which it comes. Conveniently when the cost is not something you gotta pay,suddenly the right comes up,haha.
Here the cost of such an unnecessary opinion that has nothing to do with you is speculation that can grow into public insight and which thereafter start affecting policy making or even mental health of those to whom it actually apply to.
The legal subset is never the social subset for us. Same reason why you won't go out and start videographing random people(coz in between you may end up breaking other laws unknowingly and then,ahem,angry mob isn't something you would like to face) even if legally pubic places can be videographed.
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(The basis of not applying includes biology yes,could be anything. For eg,I wouldn't tell a kannadiga what to do with the kannada- hindi debate online because I am not and wouldn't be a kannadiga .It just doesn't apply to me.I can only talk abt what I face or not face etc.
Similarly,you can decide whether you wanna be into women with such a stance or can adjust with someone like that.That is about your part,sure.But what you can't say is what they should do on their part,including whether or not it's red flag for them to have such decision in late 30's.It's not that you can't say,you can but ofc it's pointless.Like,I can say it shouldn't be raining today like it cares abt my opinion lmao)
It's just flabbergusting to see one needs to go through so much explanation only to not misinterpret one sentence:
"No.ut.no.op (regarding a particular xyz)..not about the rest "
And some things might seem to be missing logic coz logic comes upon some social axioms,which you might not know/agree with.
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More than that, you have put your unnecessary opinion on some man too,how some man spending his own hard earned money for his therapy is a red flag to you in the same league of waking up with anxiety,which are rather sad affairs. Very easy candidates for being called out.
And the 'long paragraphs' are only a reflection of how many times one gotta explain something to you and in how basic language the interpretation of one single sentence that you could have done yourself,leaving us all the headache. You don't wanna change under the curtain of 'freedom of expression' so it takes long paragraphs to explain to you how your freedom of expression hampers the same freedom of expression of others: reproductive rights,a more important one
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So only burglars can talk about theft laws? Only cancer patients get to weigh in on healthcare policy? Interesting world you live in, where empathy, logic, and observation are all disqualified… unless you’ve got the lived experience badge.
Also, if the argument rests on social axioms I might not know or agree with, then we’re not really debating logic.. we’re defending dogma...
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Agnivo B.
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Here an opinion on women's reproductive rights won't have much consequences coz neither your bros or women in your fam would judge you for that. So your expression of your legally available freedom.of speech is a convenient step for you, bootlicking the men in power making sure not to offend them but not so much with the women knowing they would at max call you out for it.
Just wanted to make people understand that crying about law only when convenient but yourself totally compromising on widening the law depending on whether someone can afford the consequences of such actions esp. that are perfectly within the law but uncomfortable for you ,is just bootlicking hypocrisy.
Preach what you practice. Thank you.
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
For eg,dealing with your clients etc,even if they are logically wrong you follow the learnt-by-experience social axiom of not offending the clients even though there are logical grounds of doing that.
It's just you can't afford the consequences of choosing the logic over such axioms. But when you can,when the consequences aren't on you,you talk about logic.
Have always seen people talk about how r*pe/abuse victims should behave,get abused and right away file a complaint when they talk abt how the complaints come so late. They follow whatever logic they can come up with perfectly knowing a social axiom of not piling on the victims do exist. But there is no consequences for their actions this time.So they play the you-see-I-am-just-following-logic part.
Intellectuals have learnt to shut up on their 'logical' conclusions here and there about god,after seeing consequences of hurting sentiments-violating the axiom.
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
And when it comes to women,they have chosen to follow the logic over others except when they change completely. A and B,once upon a time,were like this,like ya all. But then A became a girl-dad and B didn't. And now they don't talk much. Since B couldn't evolve into the person A would like to be his daughter around.
That's pretty much it. Sure, assuming the bestest of men, ya all perfectly know when to be empathetic etc over obsessing over logic when it comes to women in your life because ofc you are their well wishers. But then again,ofc who cares abt other women right. It is not your responsibility. So you put your heart at home and go out playing the logic card.
Not new. For centuries we have seen educated men knowing conveniently switch avatars,haha.
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
1. Mentioning 'toxic masculinity' or any 'shouldn't be's won't make a difference to them.
2. The right to freedom of speech etc. is only a convenient tool for them when it is convenient for them.The lack of consequences of action makes the convenience possible. Only working on such consequences is a better option,for which you will need more support and consensus.But people usually shy away from these heated opinionated spaces and put you on your own, which gives them the escape from any consequences(even a backlash is a decent consequence,doesn't have to be some sorta punishment)
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
So just mansplaining with the 'oh what do you know,you mere woman' mindset(which is why it's mansplaining,with the idea that you always know better) hiding under naive statements like
'oh your right to be offended' is nowhere compared to the fundamental rights.Ofc it's not.But there are other legal grounds to do something about it and hence your assumptions are just plain naive ;)
But I get it that throwing some 'let me show you how I know better' kinda emasculation attitude is an important 'let me at least have a win and feel good' escape certainly. No worries, keep feeling good about it.
Sushree Chinmayee Nayak • 2nd
I wonder how do you sleep at night with such mediocre content at night. Moreover, us actually boosting it bu even interacting with such unrealistic, attention seeking content on personal lives of others.
Vaibhav Jain
Author
We can disagree on tone, but disagreement isn’t license to question intent or attack character.
Strong opinions are welcome. So is basic respect.
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
It's hard to see grown men cannot distinguish between arguments. Whether or not an uncomfortable statement about India being a rape capital is offensive you can decide for yourself,but when it comes to whether saying today's event is enough to tag Kolkata a rape capital too is offensive or not, is not something someone outside of kolkata or not born there can decide coz they wouldn't be offended even if it is.
But I am sure using n number of analogy and several dumbed down explanations wouldn't get to your head coz now ya all are just reading from hurt male ego rather than a rational mind where you just cannot digest being told what to do about women's matter. Right,who on earth can stop you from expressing such opinion? I am sure our freedom of speech exists only to make such abuse of right possible.
Please continue.Not surprising when the r*pists can't stop r*ping when educated men cannot digest some pride and stop the urge of having opinion on women's reproductive rights
Sushree Chinmayee Nayak • 2nd
Vaibhav Jain
Author
Disagreeing = hurt ego.
Explaining = mansplaining.
And not being from Kolkata = opinion invalid. Bro, that’s not discourse that’s dodgeball.
Yeah lived experience matters, no one's denying that. But that don’t mean only people who went through something are allowed to speak on it. By that logic, doctors shouldn’t treat stuff they never had. Journalists shouldn’t report outside their city...
What’s getting tiring isn’t disagreement it’s constant switch from argument to insult the moment pushback shows up...
Also, I really hope this wasn’t written by ChatGPT... It’s trying too hard...
Vaibhav Jain
Author
How do you sleep at night?
Too tired to educate.
All in one thread, impressive range..
Appreciate the passion but personal digs aren’t a substitute for argument.
You’re offended.. Fair. Say that.
But dressing it up as a moral collapse and pretending it's beneath your energy.. That’s not critique. That’s a theater with a superiority complex...
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
Nah,man.My bad.Go ahead.Actions have consequences, when your unsolicited opinions will have some you will learn anyway.Will be too late,but who cares.Cheers!
Agrajit Roy
• 2nd
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Agrajit Roy
• 2nd
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Divya S
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Sushree Chinmayee Nayak • 2nd
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Aveek Pal
• 2nd
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Bhabna Roy
• 2nd
Vaibhav Jain
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The point I’m flagging is the input driver: chasing big $$ package on autopilot, or copying someone else’s success template without checking the long‑term consequences
By the time one realized there is burn‑out, body breakdown, mind in overdrive..it can be too late, and still dopamine hit of external validation keeps them stuck on the treadmill...
Post isn’t pathologizing anxiety; it’s calling out the hidden cost of unbalanced ambition. Hope that frames my intent better. 🙏
Sudeepta Sahu
• 2nd
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Gaurav Gupta
• 2nd
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Purnangshu Paul
• 2nd
Vaibhav Jain
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Manytimes you need a shakeup..and reorientation..
Prateek Sayal • 2nd
Neha Rai • 1st
Niharikaa Kaur Sodhi
• 2nd
Mukesh Kestwal, PhD • 2nd
But if death is the ultimate truth, wouldn’t it be better to live by your own choices rather than someone else’s version of success?
I’ve lived life earning 2LPA and also ₹20LPA. And honestly, 20LPA gives you just enough cushion to make a few good choices, especially when you need them most. Beyond that, it’s all in the mind.
So, to the generation that may get inspired by this post, and leave everything - focus on the kaam. The rest is just gyan ki baat.... Society is so brutal, want to test ? Leave everything and see how you get treated.. including from your family.
Abhinav Kumar
• 2nd
Dharini Suresh • 2nd
You seem to have a confused relationship with success & money.
Whether you hustle or don't hustle, each path has its own side effects & benefits.
Pick your poison.
Rohit D.
• 2nd
R Mahesh Narayan
• 2nd
I actually know many successful millionaires who are already living this change. New India is different—they’re choosing balance, family, and well-being, not just chasing bigger numbers.
Maybe true success is about what we hold on to, not just what we achieve.
Nitin Chandna
• 3rd+
Rishi Talwar
• 2nd
The real success is fine tuning your ambitions not for validation or revenge but for peace.
Suatainable success and not success alone should be the criteria
Yogender Singh • 2nd
Madhavan B
• 2nd
Priyanka Dutta
• 2nd
Major Neha Ghai (Veteran)
• 2nd
Mehak Madan
• 2nd
Japneet Sachdeva
• 2nd
For that lots of people compromise their peace already.
Life challenging we need to give some to take some.
Maithilee Joshi • 2nd
PRASHANT RAJ
• 2nd
Mayank Kapoor
• 2nd
Shivani Mahandru • 2nd
Dinesh Sharma • 3rd+
- “So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life's A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you'll move mountains.”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!
Agnivo B.
• 2nd
Another thing, one family dinner a week could be as much of a quality time as of those having it daily but with physically-present-yet-emotionally-distant mindset coz of lack of EQ/generationally passed on etc. which could have been improved by therapy etc.
It's a communist mindset that 'big indian dream' is a sham. And calling these lives soul-less is an insult to those who are trying their very best to survive through soul-torchering labor everyday living day by day.
It's not surprising chatgpt content couldn't sugarcoat the commie lens of viewing things lmao.
Or, maybe it's an intentional rage-bait ;)
Neeraj Deginal
• 3rd+
Tarang Jadafiya
• 2nd
Yes, health is a cost, but some people enjoy adventure.
I guess these moments of chasing work make them feel alive.
At the end, one thing that matters is whether you really enjoyed the journey or not, because health will be gone.
Rishav Mitra
• 3rd+
Avik Mukherjee
• 2nd
Chaitanya Handa
• 2nd
I highly doubt this will be the case for the entire 0.1% population of HNI's in our country.
Ritesh Hellan
• 2nd
Nimish Singhania
• 2nd
Theres a way .....
Samar Sisodia • 2nd
Sanjay Gaggar 🇮🇳 • 2nd
Beena George
• 2nd
Amol Lodha • 3rd+
Sagar Aswani
• 2nd
Kaushik Patra (Views are Personal)
• 2nd
And life is about choices. People make choices. Choices are very personal to the individual. And no choice is wrong.
Naveen Tandon
• 2nd
Sunit Nagori
• 2nd
Udayan Guha
• 2nd
Ravinder Khurana
• 2nd
Shilin Reji Philip
• 2nd
Been consulting for the past couple of years — some gigs last just 2 weeks and still bring in 7 figures. It’s been simple, steady, and fulfilling. I get where this post is coming from, but not everyone hits burnout chasing success. Some of us chose a slower lane — and it’s worked out just fine.
Atul S. • 2nd
Shaleen Agarwal • 2nd
CA Rekha Upadhye • 2nd
Lisners
Please take care of your mental health. Nothing can get it back once it deteriorates beyond a point.
Do not suffer in silence and never wait for things to get worse. If you face symptoms, seek help.
Priyang Agarwal 🥇
• 2nd
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Avinash Choudhari
• 3rd+
बिना अंगूर चखे कह देना कि अंगूर खट्टे हैं...ये गुनाह है
अंगूर खट्टे हो भी सकते हैं
बहुत सी बातो पर निर्भर है
तुम्हें अंगूर भी खाने हैं और खट्टे अंगूर का सामना भी नहीं करना
ऐ इंसान तुम्हे जीना भी है और जीवन की आपा धापी से बचना भी है
निर्णय कर लो
शांति से कब्र में लेटना है कि जीवन जीना है
जीवन तो ऐसा ही है
कुछ खोना और कुछ पाना
कुछ पाने के लिए कुछ खोना
और सब कुछ खोना कुछ पाने के लिए
हिसाब रखते-रखते ख़तम हो जाओगे
अपना अपना देखो
दूसरो को जीने दो अपने तरीके से
और तुम भी जियो अपने तरीके से
जीवन को किसी भी नज़रीये से देखने कि आज़ादी सब को है
और उस नज़रीये के साथ जुड़ने और ना जुड़ने की भी आजादी सबके पास है
Arun Valecha
• 2nd
Arun Valecha
• 2nd
Suprabh Jain
• 2nd
Diwaker Bandanwal
• 2nd
Pratap Simha S J
• 2nd
Seen enough healthy, wealthy and happy people. It is this notion that earning money comes at the cost of health is what stops us from becoming a wealthy country.
Stop making it a this or that. Hum lar lenge thanks
Supriya Sethi (She/Her/Hers)
• 2nd
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• 2nd
KAWERI BHAGAT
• 2nd
Manoj Shinde 🔹
• 2nd
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• 2nd
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• 2nd
Balaji Venkat Chellam Iyer, CABP., EMBA., EPDT., M.C.S.,
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